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- I'm 49 years old
So you love a guy with low self-esteem.
He needs to feel that you value him and the things he does, however inificant they may seem. Quality Time - If quality time is most important to your man, he will feel loved when you spend time together that is free of distractions. For instance, depending on the person, watching television together may not constitute quality time.
Instead, choose an activity that will allow you to focus your attention on him. Try to make a point of having dinner together alone at least a few times a week, and take advantage of your extra time on the weekends to plan something fun that requires interaction. Some people simply need love to be expressed in visible and tangible ways.
Pay attention to the little things that make him feel loved.
Surprise him at work with lunch or a cup of his favorite coffee. Little things like this will go a long way toward making him feel special and fulfilled in your relationship.
Acts of Service - Acts of service include making your guy dinner, doing his laundry, picking up his dry cleaning, getting his car washed, and any other chore that can make his life simpler and less stressful. Pick two things to do for him each week, in addition to what you would normally do, and your man will feel loved! Physical Touch - Physical touch should be one of the easiest love languages to work with, as a simple hug or kiss is all that it may take for him to feel secure and loved. If showing affection is not easy for you, try to step out of your comfort zone and show him you really care.
Give him space.
5 ways to keep a man’s attention
You can help to keep a man interested by simply giving him space. He needs alone time, or at least time to pursue hobbies and interests that you might not share. Pick a time each week when you each do something on your own or with your friends. In the novelty of a new relationship, many people are tempted to spend all of their time with their new date, while letting other relationships slip.
Remember, there may come a day when you need the support of your friends, so make sure you stay in their good graces! The next time he tells you he made plans with his friends, smile and tell him to have fun.
Then, schedule a date at the spa with a few of your friends. The last thing your guy needs is a second mother. Now, we all know that the men in our life need some help and guidance at times OK, all of the timebut there are ways to do this without taking him back to his high school days when his mom constantly nagged him.
Learn to like or at least tolerate the things he likes.
Can you imagine if he went to get a pedicure every two weeks or spent an hour styling his hair every morning? Just the same, we should be willing to let them watch football and baseball, or even spend the weekend hunting with family or friends.
With time, you might even start to enjoy watching football! Bottom line: if you want him to humor you when you go shopping or sun yourself by the pool, you need to be willing to spend a few hours doing what he loves to do.
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By Rebekah Musgrove. Last Updated: November 15, Some of us are great at the chase, but not so good at the kill.
Being yourself is always a good place to start, but there are other things that you can do to keep a man by your side, help him to really appreciate you, and take that step to commit. Learn to speak his love language. First and foremost, find out what his love language is.
Forcing a serious issue like marriage may do more harm than good. And if you do finally venture into the dark waters, b e prepared to gently back out if you sense he feels overwhelmed. Give your relationship a chance to run its course naturally.