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Anne Rucchetto, 27, is a writer living in Toronto, Canada. As part of the BBC's Women series, she writes about why it matters who picks up the bill.

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So as a man you should always expect to pay for the date. After all you want her to be able to relax and enjoy her time with you. She may instead get the message that the two of you are nothing more than friends. If you want to avoid her seeing you in that light then paying for the date will go a long way.

What if she offers to chip in? The woman you date may offer to pay for herself. She may reach for her purse and suggest once or twice that she can pay half the bill. But in these situations you want to tell her to put the purse away.

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Let her see that you want to pay for her. Offer to pay for her but if she is really persistent about it then just split the bill. There are some good reasons why a woman may insist on paying for herself. Maybe she sees it as a point of pride that she can take care of herself. If her reasoning is anything like the points mentioned above, you can actually be doing her a favor and showing you respect her values by allowing her to pay for herself.

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What if she asks you on a date? Of course you can always be the super-gentleman and still pay for her anyway. Not only would that be appreciated, but it would send a clear message of your interest and desire to be more than friends. Like drinks at happy hour.

After you buy the first round of drinks many women will offer to pay for the second. And she just so happens to pick the most expensive restaurant in town. What then? Who pays for the date if she is the one who made it so expensive? When you ask a girl on a date it should be your adventure that you are bringing her on. You want to plan where to go, what to do, how long it will be — all that stuff. How do you keep from going broke?

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If you are going on a lot of dates or just tight on cash then paying for dates might seem overwhelming. For ideas on what to do on a date without breaking the bank, check out the last section of this article. Brian M - author of posts on The Art of Charm. Once he realized attraction was something he could learn, Brian spent way too much of his free time studying and practicing everything he could find on the subject.

Excited by the progress he's made in his own life since the program, he decided to start writing for AoC to help other guys do the same. Pingback: Dating and Money Elementum Money. Well said!

A gentleman never allows a woman to put her hand in her wallet. She will never truly respect you as a man and always think of you as weaker than her.

Showing that you can handle treating her, shows that you can offer protection in the modern world. That is all a woman truly wants from her partner. Be confident. Remember that dating her is an investment in your future. Investments cost money. Babe Investment? Yeah right. The logic behind your comment is that only men benefit from relationships, which is simply untrue. Also, that would mean that women only exchange their time and efforts for the money the man provides and any such action is on par with prostitution.

Whilst I agree that the guy should initiate the contact and the date, and consequentially pay for it, there reciprocation needs to happen sooner rather than later. After all, a healthy relationship is a two-way street where both partners invest just as much time, effort and yes — money. Great answer Alex. Also if we talk about investment then women become a property, isnt it? We are now equal in modern world, especially employment and freedom rights, women can do everything men can.

You wanted equality, you have the equality you cant pick and choose like a box of chocolates where you want to be equal and where you dont want to be.

Please pay for your own expenses now that you earn. Not nice. However I spend a lot of money of making myself look like a goddess. I spend a fortune on shoes, makeup, hair and clothes. This is well written!!!! The things you wrote in this article are the qualities I look for in a man who is pursuing me on an intimate level.

The way I feel is if a man is truly interested in and likes a woman, and the woman shows interest in return, courting her should never be a problem. I am so against the tid for tad and nickeling and diming. I am a very generous woman who has offered to pick pay however I must ensure that he makes me feel comfortable and secure. He must allow me to offer to pay, not demand that the next outing is on me, keep a count of how many times he payed, nor ask me to contribute the tip.

Let me offer! I feel if a man is short on money, then he should not ask her out nor accompany her on a date if she suggests they go out. The sole way he should agree to go out with the lady knowing he is broke when she suggests is if he tells her he does not have it in his budjet and she kindly offers to pick up the tab. By then, this pair would have probably been out on more than 5 dates in addition are spending time with each other regularly.

I know we are living in a new millennium but chivalry should not die. Its not really about the money, its more about paying for someone when there is no guarantee it will turn into a relationship, when men have such a guarantee they wont have any problem paying and taking care as you said. But now that women have so many choices, they go on evaluation spree. Sure you can do that but use your own money. How about paying for your own until there is a relationship, fair deal? All of this is a major nope.

I take great pride in paying for myself and I damn well will be prideful over it. Things like this thing make shit harder for me, cause I have to fight a guy over it. There are plenty of dudes out there who feel just fine having me pay, and nobody is under any obligation to pay just because of what sex they are. The person who pays is whoever wants to pay. Women have ego and pride too, we go out with men just to get some dick too, not all of us are hopeless romantics looking for a knight to come sweep us away.

I enjoy making the decisions and planning, I like being in control and would die before I give it up.

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Now thats the kind of woman I am looking for but there are so few of you. But thank you, it gives me a hope there are women who are fair. Paying for your own meal is a fair deal because then if it does not turn into a relationship then no one feels hurt or used. And honestly when a woman is truly interested none of these things really matter, if there is a chemistry but until then please everyone men and women, please pay for yourself so no expectations build up.

Mmm — definitely lean toward chivalry.

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I want an alpha male and in my experience, alphas take care of their woman. The GF has to do all the cooking, cleaning, washing, etc. If the beta is still at least a great emotional support and sweet, fun to be around i. I have been talking to a guy on hangout and he wants me to help him with money when he has not even met me I would like to know if this is a true man or not.

I have been telling him that it is not responsibility to help with money because we are not married and I tell him that if we were married it would be a different with my money. Should be whoever asks and suggests. Chivalry has changed.

People want more equalness. This idea of men having to pay and it shows weakness if you even let a woman offer to split is so outdated. If you decide to have kids, which one of you has to deal with it for 9 months every time and potentially take time off work after? I want to know my potential partner is generous, comfortable financially and willing to show that he can take care of me.

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