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There is a stereotype about women that they don't say what they really mean.


What women say & what they really mean

These guys know on some level that the woman who said it is trying to let them down easy. And, of course, they want to know how they can prevent hearing the same thing next time they take someone out. But I can certainly admit to having said this or something similar to guys before. Chemistry is a tricky thing. Some of them were missing the sense of humor and emotional intelligence I need to feel a connection with someone.

You just have to wait, see, and hope for the best. I mean something completely innocuous and normal that is incompatible with something I knew to be true about myself, either in general or as far as what I needed in a potential relationship. And you know what?

When you want one kind of relationship, and it feels like everyone you try to date wants the exact opposite, it takes a lot out of you and makes you wonder if maybe you need to take a break. Now I am talking about racist, sexist, or bigoted comments. Or barely-contained issues with explosive anger.

Or an impressive level of comfort binge-drinking or doing hard drugs in front of someone on a first date. The two almost certainly have something to do with one another. I did think they were great and possibly even a perfect fit for some other woman.

And sometimes, that is what a woman means when she says that. But when my husband and I became friends and got to know each other, things just clicked in a way that changed my mind pretty much instantly. Things have to be right. Full-time writer.

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Like, you both know you are more than a "friend with benefits"


Like, you both know you are more than a "friend with benefits"


Remember when Jed from this past season of The Bachelorette botched his engagement with Hannah because he was clearly in a relationship before coming on the show, and uh, told her after the proposal?