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From the beginning of the relationship, there will be many s that he is selfish. Along with that, he could be unappreciative, mean, and stingy and as your relationship matures and strengthens, you will realize some other bad qualities about him too.


I think my boyfriend is selfish! My ex exhibited selfish behavior that I should have walked away from. It was a toxic relationship. However, the experience taught me a lot. All of the warning s were there, but I focused on his positive traits and was blind at the time. He had a charismatic personality, always made me laugh, and was very intelligent, but he treated me rotten. He was definitely a selfish person. I also felt like I had to walk on eggshells around him. Since it was a long-distance relationship, I was the one who had to drive to see him, and that was the only time he paid attention to me.

Top 20 s that your boyfriend is actually selfish

It was a one-sided relationship. After 5 months of this, I realized I could do better. You may be wondering if your boyfriend fits the bill as a selfish person or if he just likes to talk a lot and be the center of attention. If you are curious as to whether you have a selfish partner or not, see if any of these things sound familiar. He makes you do all the hard work in the relationship, like driving to see him when he refuses to return the favor in a long-distance relationship.

This is a one-way street, unfortunately but not literally. If you feel drained, frustrated, or t ired of doing all the work in the relationshipyou may have a self-centered partner. Often, the giver in this situation gives gifts, thinks of the other person, and does special little things to let the taker know she cares about him, but the actions are not reciprocated.

He forgot your birthday…yet again, he stood you up on a date, etc.

Yet he always has an excuse for his behavior. Does your man refuse to change even the smallest thing about himself, yet expects you to constantly make changes that suit him? This type of narcissistic behavior is frustrating.

Selfish boyfriends: here are 25 key s to watch for

Often, when you do talk, this type of partner is just thinking about what he wants to say next. Do you feel like you are walking on eggshells when you are around your boyfriend? Does he get mad over the smallest thing? If you have to cater to his every whim, the relationship is unbalanced.

Otherwise, where is the chemistry? This is a controlling behavior many selfish boyfriends exhibit. Not a good ! Your selfish boyfriend may tell you how to look, what to say in public or private, for that matteror how to act around other people. I once had a boyfriend tell me how to tweeze my eyebrows and brush my teeth!

S you're being selfish in a relationship

I looked fine just the way I was! He was a pretty boy not my type and cared way too much about our appearance as a couple. It was definitely a red flag! This goes back to him not listening to you. You want to date a good listener, someone who cares about what you have to say or what you are thinking about. This is definitely not loving behavior. Of course, you can both have your space, but when does he make time for you?

This can be especially annoying if your selfish boyfriend is also argumentative. You want someone who is at least sometimes agreeable. He may be afraid of being alone or enjoy some other benefit he receives from the relationship but is that where it ends? Who wants to live like this? This is a very hard thing to live with on a regular basis. Everything is all about him, his interests, his hobbies, his job, etc. This one of the characteristics of a one-sided relationship.

You should be with someone who puts you at the top of his priority list as well. Now, you can totally relate to the old viewpoint of men having to wait for their women for hours, as they got their hair and makeup perfect, right? It could be that your partner has a narcissistic personality disorder.

According to WebMDthis personality type craves admiration, exaggerates a lot, has wide and fast mood swings, and fantasizes about unlimited wealth, success, and power. Your partner may also strive to win, no matter what. Would you really put up with this behavior from anyone else? The characteristics listed above that make up a narcissistic partner might be s.

A partner who is selfish will typically put his needs in front of yours, time and time again. According to Oprah MagazineSigns youre dating a selfish man selfish partner may not be able to control the way they act. Selfish people may have been raised in an environment where their thoughts, feelings, and needs were valued, and they are now taking advantage of having this, causing you to suffer because of it. So, what can you do if your partner has these characteristics? Consider doing some volunteer work or spend time with your friends and family members who respect you.

Find people who care about what you have to say and are positive influences on your life. Pursue your own interests by doing things that you enjoy doing, things that lift you up. Increasing the blessing in your life with lift your spirits.

Give yourself the attention and care that you should be getting from your partner. Respect yourself in the ways he never does. You will feel blessed that you can lift yourself up. I recommend using a goal planner where you can write positive affirmations, a list of gratitudes, and create goals that you can successfully accomplish.

If you plan to stay with your partner, you may want to map out exactly what you can do to make things work better - for both of your sakes. Once you have come up with ideas in your planner or in just a plain notebook, map out the individual steps needed to accomplish your goals.

If you think you may be in an emotionally or mentally abusive relationship, why are you still with your partner? Do some soul searching to see if you are addicted to drama. What kind of partner do you need to have a healthy relationship? First, do not confront him about being selfish; an attack like that will just upset him and will close off the communication channels you are trying to build. Instead, bring up his good qualities and help him understand the best way to be connected to you. Try to begin the conversation with just one thing that you would like to have changed.

Explain a specific example when things could have gone better if he would have done such-and-such differently. Finally, he may not even realize he is being self-centered. Approach the subject delicately.

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Try to assess whether your wants and needs are important to him. Indicate that you would like for the two of you to compromise more. People can learn to compromise. After you have talked over the changes you hope he will make, be sure to work together to find solutions to the many problems you feel are evident in the relationship. Express your concerns gently. Point out the good times and the good personality traits that you love about him. Then, tell him about the times when he could have compromised but did not.

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