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That person whom you share the house with? The love of your life — remember?

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Falling out of love is one of the most accepted reasons for a break-up. My boyfriend and I have fallen out of love many times in our year relationship. When love dies, you bring it back to life.

You can fall out of love with someone, but you can also fall in love with them over and over again. Because loving someone is a choice. Why did we fall out of love? Patrick Keelanregistered psychologist, explains sentiment override like this:.

It means that you two like each other.

9 ways to reconnect to your loving feelings.

You see each other in a positive light. Obviously, we think that people would choose a partner they liked.

This makes it much more likely that the couple will have negative thoughts and feelings about each other during these discussions. This is not good. Here are some things you might hate about your partner right now:. The worse you feel, the harder it will be to spot positive things about your partner.

Why do people fall out of love?

The fact that they picked you up in the rain goes unnoticed. When people fall out of love, they often mistake negative sentiment override for the death of their relationship. Patrick Keelan as our starting point:. The 1 thing you can do to feel in love with your partner is to spend quality time connecting with each other.

Note that Dr. Thinking positive thoughts about your partner, liking them and feeling in love with them depend on you two spending quality time with each other. It means that if you keep going down this path, you will and probably should break up eventually. BUT: These bad feelings can be reversed, and quite quickly.

The real how-to

Talking more, doing fun things again, showing your partner that you appreciate them. That will tip you into positive sentiment override again. Which will make it so much easier to find solutions to your relationship problems. In the beginning, it might feel disappointing to try and spend time with your partner. They might not be enthusiastic — remember, they too might not like you that much right now. The first few times you go on dates might not end with you passionately crumbling the sheets.

Last year we had one of our worst crisis of all time. We had never been so close to throwing in the towel. But we had a small weekend getaway planned and so we took the trip. During those three days, we opened up and talked, talked, talked.

And we remembered why we loved each other. Gottman highly recommends. Or keep a crappy relationship going just because you could. But if you used to have a solid relationship you can turn things around. You can fall in love again.

A lot of problems can be fixed. Most relationships can be saved if they have or used to have a foundation of shared values, respect, and trust.

Not all hope is lost. This book is practical. If you want to fix it, that is. Iris Barzen has been with her boyfriend for 11 years. She wants to understand why and devours research on stable, happy relationships. She shares her findings on Medium. Iris has a degree in Psychology and works as a coach.

She helps her clients declutter and feel less overwhelmed. Medium is an open platform where million readers come to find insightful and dynamic thinking. Here, expert and undiscovered voices alike dive into the heart of any topic and bring new ideas to the surface. Learn more. If you have a story to tell, knowledge to share, or a perspective to offer — welcome home.

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Start a blog. in. Felicia C. Iris Barzen Follow. Here are some things you might hate about your partner right now: He never cleans up his desk. Why do I always have to run after them? When people fall out of love, they often mistake negative sentiment override for the death of their relationship So, what can we do to get out of negative sentiment override? I Love You Relationships now. Relationships Love Psychology Heartbreak Breakups. I Love You Follow.

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