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Men are often clueless when it comes to knowing what to say to girls that are in a bad mood. They wind up saying the wrong things and adding more fuel to the fire. But if you know what to say to girls in these situations then you can help a girl overcome her bad mood.
Both men and women do this. They tend to struggle with their moody girlfriend. But you can learn how to navigate these differences, and have the relationships with women that other men envy. So oftentimes, when we find out our girl is upset about something, our first reaction is to figure out why and how we can stop it. We all get trapped in our emotions from time to time and can use a little outside help.
That she can be a moody girlfriend. So rather than tell her what to feel or what to do, console her. Empathize with her. Understand her.
Use your heart, not your mind, to deal with the situation — as counterintuitive as that may sound. Indeed, usually they already know what to do, so telling them often comes across as arrogant and oblivious, and just pisses them off more. Instead just be open and listen. Rather than help, you trying to force a conversation on the issue might just make it worse. Whatever the cost. Humor can gently guide a woman out of her state and into a new one where she can laugh at herself and the situation.
Indeed, one of the greatest feelings in the world is watching a moody girlfriend reluctantly crack a smile.
Women love to laugh, and if you can give them something to laugh about, they will almost always appreciate the opportunity to do it. In these cases, trying to push jokes on her can actually prove counterproductive. Not only will it annoy her, but if you keep trying to change her mood and get a specific reaction from her all it does is make you look needy and uncaring. In these cases you need to try a different tactic.
And paradoxically, the best way to do it is to not try to do anything at all. You simply move the interaction forward ; change the subject, move onto to other things, and stop putting pressure on it all. Their thoughts are just stuck on an unpleasant topic, and they just need a little help to stop fixating on it.
How to get a girl in the mood
Maybe she needs some space, and maybe you need to come back later and try some combination of the three rules. Or maybe you need to let her process it all on her own over time. EVERY woman is moody at times. This is a skill you need to master. But there is some good news: I offer coaching for men to help them learn how to do it. Contact me for a consultation today. A variation of this article was originally posted at The Social Man. It is a great site, check it out! Subscribers get free goodies like special reports on mindset and female psychology, as well as personal access to me over.
Don't be shy, the community. We don't spam. If you can keep calm, you have already won 90 percent. The rest is easy and your girlfriend will respect you even more. Women try to test man, and they almost always do it by using emotions. If you as a man cannot stand like a solid rock, you will not pass that test. Being the masculine rock in the face of the feminine storm is the challenge all men face with women.
This is how you deal with a moody girlfriend
It seems the article is trying to tell men to just stay calm, listen to your girlfriend, and do what pleases her. Change mood: it seems like the article is telling men to make her mood. This works but not always. You know what, there are millions of people who have no houses, no food to eat, no clothes to wear.
They still somehow get a smile on their face everyday despite all the issues they face. Thanks for the comment. That women often have emotional waves and you need to ride them.
Not accommodate them. As for accepting her unconditionally, that is a necessary precondition to any healthy relationship. Patterns, trust, etc. In other words, when we get moody, we take it out on them. Most find that no matter what they do or say, they seem to make the situation worse. Generally, this le us to land upon two conclusions: If she does X, her problem will be solved. She simply wants us to be there for her. And most importantly: Listen to her. But more often than not, these situations are a lot less serious than you think.
Now as we said before: do NOT try to argue her out of it. Enter humor.
Let it go. What to do? Accept it and her unconditionally. The truth is everybody has bad days.
Everybody goes through tough times. Either way, allow her to be with her emotions and get through it. Are you going to fazed by them, or are you going to stand calm? Are you going to judge her, or love her unconditionally? The choice is yours. And even with that, every woman is different.
But if you manage it, the rewards are a woman who adores you, and who knows she has a man who is both strong and compassionate. Oliver on November 4, at am. Pat on November 6, at pm.
Mahesh Makvana on August 11, at am. Thanks for the nice article. Move the interaction forward: I agree. Just my two cents. Pat on August 23, at pm. Daniel Burke on October 11, at am. Get t f out of here. Find out if our coaching is right for you. We offer life-changing bootcamps, phone coaching, and training sessions in "the field".
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