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Everyone likes sex, and everyone likes their best friend. So on paper, combining the two together into one big beautiful fuckbuddy extravaganza seems like a good idea. I am of the firm opinion that it is not a the case, and unlike we have been taught in films, you will not end up marrying Ashton Kutcher, most unfortunately. But if you are considering venturing into the world of friends with benefits, I think you ought to know the risks and more importantly why it is bullshit. So, you've convinced yourself that all you want is sex with this guy or girl who you've always thought is hot because you're just oh so mature. However, the fuck buddy contract can only be successful under certain, specific circumstances.
Then we both came home during a winter break and were hanging out and ended up having sex on his basement couch lol.
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I had always had feelings for him, but he just wanted to be hookups buddies. I agreed, because I thought it might lead to more. We kept hooking up during college breaks until one day he asked me if wanted to go on a date. He totally freaked out! It was hilarious! After I told him it was just a joke, he was pissed off for a minute but then started laughing too. He would flake on all our dates, but have ALL the time in the world after am when he wanted me to come over.
I thought we had some real chemistry, so I told him: If you want my body at night, we need to be more. I guess he thought I was a pretty good in bed, because we dated for a few months after. I was the first one to crack though haha, and asked if he wanted something more.
We talked about it for a little bit and decided to give it another shot.
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We are engaged to be married now! I was enjoying being single after a four year relationship ended, and kinda playing the field. He brought up a relationship, and kinda immaturely I laughed in his face. The relationship lasted about six months, but it was a good ride.
I remember thinking he was soooooooo fucking hot and wanting him really badly. For the next two years we spent countless nights together, and it was seriously the best sex I ever had. Then one day, after he left, I realized I missed him. Not just his body.
But him. I brought up the idea of dating, and he was really hesitant.
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But after talking about it, he both decided to give it a shot. I told him that I thought he could be something more, and he got mad. Like really mad. He ended up coming over and we talked about. He decided to give a relationship a chance, and so far so good! I would always catch him, and the lies were just so unbearable.
But we kept having sex, because he was good in bed and I am very…needy.
One day I brought up the idea of us dating again, and he said he liked what we had atm. Eventually we talked more about it and we decided to try an open relationship. We would do it all the time in his car, in hotels, at work. I felt guilty about what I was doing to his wife, and asked him to leave her.
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On the other hand, we want to stay close to the guy we are crushing on. In my case, I tried to be up-front and honest when I knew I was feeling something more than just sex. He was really understanding about it, and decided to take it day-by-day and told me we could stop having sex if I wanted.
We had always been inseparable, but our relationship was always strictly platonic. One time we went out as a part of a larger group, and ended up making out at this bar he had just broken up with his girlfriend, and I was in a BIG dry spell.
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He both decided we wanted more and went back to his apartment to fuck. We gave dating a shot, and 6 months, so far so good! Tell them straight: if you want this, you have to make this something real. I had a really good time with it for a while, but I started noticing my friends who were having sex with actual partners, and I wanted that too. After about three months of just being hookup buddies, I asked him if he was interested in something more and we both decided to give it a shot. One time after having sex he told me that he was about to be evicted from his apartment because he lost his job.
I invited him to stay with me. These words are for us all.
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