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I'm in Love with a Narcissist…. Lists with This Book. Community Reviews. Showing Average rating 4. Rating details. More filters. Sort order. Start your review of Help! I'm in Love with a Narcissist. Jul 18, John Kulm rated it it was amazing. Okay, the name sounds dumbed-down, but the book is actually very helpful and informative. Somewhere, most often in childhood, they lost sight of who they really are. Usually, through no fault of their own, they failed to develop an authentic Okay, the name sounds dumbed-down, but the book is actually very helpful and informative.

Usually, through no fault of their own, they failed to develop an authentic sense of self. Instead, what they project is a false sense. What you see is someone whose life seems to be organized around self: self-absorbed, self-obsessed, self-admiring, self-involved, self-serving, self-promoting, self-ish.

Every unpleasant self word in the vocabulary. This is very confusing. It is a fundamental lack of self that drives the machine we call narcissism. The child would then be able to develop a strong and reliable sense of self. This self would be applauded and supported by generous and unconditional parental love. What happens within a narcissistic family structure is that the needs of the child are pushed aside in favor of the needs of one or more of the caretakers.

Instead of receiving unconditional love, the child quickly learns that much is expected of him. She is expected to squelch her own sense of self; she is expected to mold herself around parental wishes and expectations. The child of a narcissistic parent learns at an early age to shape herself to accommodate external demands. This is who has lost the connection to his internal voice.

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It has been paved over. It is in this process that narcissism develops. At the core of the narcissism problem is a comprehensive abandonment of self at the very earliest age. Person, personality, personhood — all are shaped in reaction to the outside world. Authenticity is lost.

What typically happens then is that as the child develops, he manages to build a system of defenses and coping mechanisms that conceal this core issue of self. These defenses and coping mechanisms provide the behavior we identify as narcissism; this is the behavior that conceals the core issue of self.

In short, narcissists are created by problematic parenting. A preoccupation with fantasies of extraordinary success, wealth, power, beauty, and love. An intense need for admiration. A sense of entitlement. A tendency to exploit others without guilt or remorse. An absence of meaningful empathy. An arrogant attitude. Dec 10, Mary Dorahy added it. I didn't finish it. I realised that being with a narcissist wasn't worth it and no book was going to be able to help me deal with the abuse and mistreatment. Feb 08, Shawn Lynch rated it really liked it. I started reading this book with the hope that I would better understand the situation that someone I love is in, and with the goal that I might be able to support her in more productive and healthy ways.

Loving a narcissist can be rewarding as well as difficult. these ideas can help.

Having finished the book, I feel that I really do better understand her situation as well as I can from the outside and that I am better equipped to offer productive and healthy support. As I was reading the book and the stories of those relationships the book uses as anecdotes, I pictured my I started reading this book with the hope that I would better understand the situation that someone I love is in, and with the goal that I might be able to support her in more productive and healthy ways.

As I was reading the book and the stories of those relationships the book uses as anecdotes, I pictured my friend and her boyfriend over and over in the stories that she has told me and the effects I have seen played out in her life. If there had ever been a doubt that her relationship involved a toxic narcissist, that doubt had been removed by the time I was a third of the way through the book.

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While not every story was a reflection of her reality, the vast majority were situations I am familiar with. The authors do a great job of giving examples of toxic narcissism and how it manifests in relationships, they show the red flags and warning s in clear images that the reader cannot help but consider in their own life.

A respectable amount of time is dedicated to the difference between narcissistic tendencies and legitimate toxic narcissism, caution is urged that you carefully weigh the behavior of a person against specific criteria before labeling them such a weighted predator, at the same time the reader is cautioned not to excuse behavior that is harmful and damaging. Above all, the authors strongly suggest the victim of a narcissist seek professional help through therapy and surround themselves with a loving support network that understands the dangers of the toxic narcissist.

Where this book really succeeds is in the direction of the reader feeling not alone, validated and unashamed for things that have happened, attacks made at them by their victimizer. As neither the toxic narcissist nor the other partner in the relationship, I was reading the book from a unique perspective that allowed me to consider my own behaviors and their connection to my own narcissism.

I will admit, there were moments where I really felt I needed to think long and hard about the things I have done and behaviors that I exhibit. The book encourages the reader to reflect and spend some time in introspection, at the same time it reminds the reader that a true narcissist has no capacity for empathy, very limited capacity for truly loving another being and systematic patterns of behavior. So, while I may exhibit narcissistic tendencies as we all do in varying degrees there is a difference between my selfish habits and toxic narcissism.

For anyone that has the clarity of self and their possible toxic relationship, I highly recommend this book.

It may not give you the answers that you want, but it will help you recognize the tools within yourself to be a healthier and stronger person than you seem to be right now. View 2 comments.

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Jan 12, Gemma Cribb rated it it was amazing. Can't understand what happened in your relationship? Does it seem like your partner is Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde? Do you blame yourself for a breakup or just can't seem to make your relationship work no matter how much you try to accommodate your partner?

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