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We hear people complain in the dating world all the time—why are women so confusing?! Or why are all men so hard to deal with? What are you bringing to the table? What preconceived ideas and notions are you walking into dates with?

More importantly, are you using an honest approach to dating? Everyone walks into a date putting their best foot forward.

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After all, the idea is to seduce someone—to trick them into falling for you, right? While this is what society tells us is the norm, successful dating and relationships are built on honesty, not on tricks and deceptions.

The girl wakes up from a coma, only to realize Mr. Right was the one driving the car that caused her accident. This connection requires honesty and deep engagement. It requires us to take the filter off our photos and get real with our dates. Sound scary?

What are you afraid of?! Moreover, we hold limiting views of the opposite sex. We may pick a partner based not on who they are or what we want, but with a hope that we will change or mold them into the complete and total partner we desire.

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So, where do these expectations and confusing feelings originate? Well, people grow up with certain ideas based on their family situation. People may come from a background where their mother did all the emotional labor in the house. They may have been raised by a father who was aloof or distant.

These ideas stem from early childhood, and they are challenging to overcome. Many people hold certain ideas about gender based on their relationship with Mom and Dad. If Mom was overly involved, you might think women are controlling, overbearing, or intimidating.

If you were raised with a single parent, a stay-at-home dad, or by your grandparents, you may have a completely different idea of gender role models. These relationships are deeply embedded and tough to navigate. Now, of course, there are generally variations in our roles. When Judith and I got together, I was the superior housekeeper.

I liked everything neat and put away, and Judith was simply not driven that way. In fact, one of our earliest big fights was about how to store and organize things in the house. But whether you come from traditional roles or completely different backgrounds, you can work together to express your needs and get honest with each other.

Learn to embrace the rules of engagementcommunicate your needs, and engage in conflict that le toward a true partnership. So, where do you begin?

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The first steps start with sorting out your beliefs about women and men. We often have our Year of More students participate in an exercise where they write down their beliefs and ideas about the opposite sex. These can be obvious or obscure. They can be completely accurate or blatantly false. Where do these ideas come from? If you think women are manipulative, for example, where does the idea stem from? Was there a manipulative woman in your life?

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The insights from this activity are often quite profound. These gender-based ideas affect our relationships at workour dating lives, and more. Express your feelings. Imagine going into a date completely honest and open about what you want. What if you told your date exactly what you were looking for? What if you were clear about what you wanted to order for dinner not worrying about spinach in your teeth or wearing a lobster bib?

What if you decided to tell the truth about your debt, your car, your job, your nine cats?

Most of us have been lying for so long that we do it without a second thought. We put a spin on our career, our personality quirks, and our flaws. Even in our long-term relationships, we might hide our feelings. Instead of trying to please your partner or turn yourself into the ideal, simply be yourself.

The truth is everyone has flaws.

Each person you date will have different traits and different passions. They will have yearnings. So why not cut to the chase? Why not adopt an utterly forthcoming approach to your dates. Even more importantly, why not ask the great big questions?! What does your date dream about? What do they yearn for? What are their aspirations and goals?

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What are their fears? When we think of getting intimate on the first date, we think of sex, but emotional intimacy is far more challenging and rewarding.

As you explore who they are, you may start to appreciate your similarities as well as your differences! For more ways to connect with others, visit the Wright Foundation. Bob Wright is an internationally recognized visionary, educator, program developer, leadership and sales executive, best-selling author and speaker. He is a co-founder of Wright and the Wright Graduate University. Like this post and want more?

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