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Do you still love her while she wants to be friends only?
Why does she want to stay friends? what does it mean?
By Chris Seiter. Hey, lets just be honest here. Being in the friend zone really sucks and it is going to take some serious smarts to work your way out of it. In the next 30 minutes I am going to teach you how to get out of the friend zone if you have been placed there and what to do to increase your chances of getting your girlfriend back. Because I write a lot and I go into amazing depth. I probably go into greater depth than anyone talking about exes that you can find online.
So, I guess the question on your mind at this point is, is the friend zone that we are going to talk about on this site the same as the official definition Google gave above? Well, what I am going to be talking about on this is a little different.
I am going to be specifically gearing towards a situation where the guy you and the girl your ex dated in the past, broke up and now the ex girlfriend your ex only wants to be friends and nothing more.
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So, my definition of the friend zone is slightly different than the normal one but it is very similar in many ways. The thing that you have to remember is that there is more hope with my scenario because if your ex girlfriend send you a text like this. Now, lets also pretend that you were driving one day and you got into a horrible car accident and the only way that doctors could save your life is if they took your legs.
If you get friend zoned you will never get your ex girlfriend back or if you get friend zoned you will never get the girl you want. The fact that you have read this far shows me that you are interested in overcoming the obstacle you currently face from your ex girlfriend with being friend zoned or that I am an amazing writer who knows how to capture your attention.
When someone has lost their legs and loves running what do they do to overcome that problem and run again? In other words, someone who loves running but has no legs is going to find a way to overcome the obstacle of having no legs to get the love of their life back, running. Look, there is nothing wrong with relying on each other for emotional support but if you are always wanting more with your ex and she knows that then she is going to take advantage of your feelings so she can feel better about herself.
Lets say that after a breakup with your girlfriend she is constantly calling you to get your opinion on things and you give it to her. I mean, it seems like any time she has a problem you are the first call she makes and you kind of like it that way. If you really think about it she is using you for support. You are friend zoned and a great first step to not only get your ex girlfriend back but to get out of the friend zone is by using the no contact rule to your advantage.
Well, Ex girlfriend just wants to be friends you continue to let her use you for emotional support then she is just going to continue taking you for granted. Hypothetically if you use the no contact rule on her then you are going to make her realize how much she relied on you and you are going to create this feeling of longing for emotional support from you again with her.
For example, lets say that your ex has friend zoned you and you decide to use the 21 day no contact rule on her and around day 7 of this no contact period she reaches out to you because she is very stressed at work and she needs someone to talk to. Now, before the no contact rule you would have been her knight in shining armor when it came to listening to her problems but now when she reaches out to you there is no response…. While she may be a little upset at first that feeling of anger is going to be replaced with the felling of loneliness as she now has no one to listen to her problems.
Let her friend zone some other guy while you position yourself as a guy who has a legitimate chance to date her. I may have gotten a little too excited and just told you about the no contact rule without actually explaining what it is. The no contact rule is an idea that I feature in my book, Ex Girlfriend Recovery PROthat basically means that you ignore your ex in every form imaginable.
God, can you imagine a NC that lasts forever? No, you need to do a lot more. Below I have created a graphic illustrating everything that you need to be doing after the no contact rule is implemented on your ex girlfriend. As you can see there are three main things that I want you to be doing after the no contact rule and they are all an attempt to force your ex girlfriend to look at you like a man of higher value, a man worth dating.
Can you get her back if you’re just friends?
What I would like to do for you now is give an in-depth explanation on each of the three main things that you are supposed to be doing after the no contact rule to get out of being in the friend zone with your ex girlfriend. I am going to make believers out of you today so pay attention. Lets imagine that the girl above throws herself at you and showers you with all kinds of compliments and asks you out on a date dinner and a movie.
Because that is what she is used to. She is used to wrapping men around her tiny little fingers.
1. she doesn’t feel enough attraction for him to be more than just friends
She is used to men saying yes to her every request. So, by reverse friend zoning your ex girlfriend you are putting yourself in a position where SHE is being friendzoned by you rather than the other way around.
I am a glass half full kind of guy and try to turn negatives into positives so bear with me here. For example, lets pretend that you are moving into a new apartment and you need help moving. Well, in that case the thing that you want to do is call up your ex girlfriend and ask her to help you move just like she would call you up and ask you to help her move. Assuming she says yes which we will for this example make her help you for hours with the move. Another popular way that you can reverse friend zone your ex is talk to her about your relationship troubles.
For example, talk to her about a cute girl you saw on the job the other day and how you are thinking of asking her out.
Ask for her advice on how to do that. In fact, if you do this right you can incite some jealousy. It is going to take time and you are going to have to stick with it but if you do it correctly your ex is going to be the one that where you are right now and you are going to be where she is. Another way you can really mess with your ex girlfriends mind and get her to classify you outside of the friend zone is to send her mixed als. Now, I am the type of guy that likes to lock down plans ahead of time so I immediately went to work on the second date a few days after the first date.
So, like any great man I tried to adapt to the change and ask her out again which she accepted and then promptly stood me up again. I mean, when a girl texts you that she misses you and wants to kiss you, you begin to think she may like you.
Well, that was the last I heard from Ex girlfriend just wants to be friends for a couple of weeks and then when I brought the kissing text up to her she said that she was in the hospital and was delirious when she sent it…. Nevertheless, the mixed als from her made me think she might want to date me for the stretch of six months. A roller coaster takes you on a big climb and then a big drop and then on another climb again and then on another drop again.
They make us think that we are going to get into a relationship with someone and then they take that hope away right when we think we have it in the bag and then at the very last moment they restore the hope again. You need to do this to your ex girlfriend and create a roller coaster effect that will cause her to continually chase you. These are women are are actively looking to try to get their ex boyfriends back. Heck, these women could be your ex girlfriend if you do this tactic correctly and then everyone wins. Sometimes the smartest thing that you can do to win her back is to just walk away and end your relationship with her entirely.
Well, sometimes women get a bit of the grass is greener syndrome in that as they go out and experience other things they begin to realize how good they had it with you and begin to want you back. Last month with my other site, Ex Boyfriend Recovery, I began a podcast where I allowed women to record a voicebmail and I would answer their questions on air.
One of the first women to call in had the following question.
What had happened in her situation is that he broke up with her and then as she moved on and improved her life he took notice and began to want to be a part of her life again. It made me think that sometimes the best thing anyone can do to re-attract their ex is to completely press the reset button and revisit the situation later after they have ificantly improved her life. You work on improving your life and finding inner peace, happiness, success and all that good stuff. After a year passes your ex girlfriend calls you out of the blue and seems to be interested in you again.
All of a sudden you appear to be out of the friend zone and it was all made possible because you walked away. By Chris Seiter Updated on May 8th, I am just going to level with you here. Luckily you have me!
You can look at me like a decorated ex girlfriend expert. A friend zone rescuer if you will. Yes, it will literally take you 30 minutes to read this article from top to bottom. How do I know that?
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