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When you've lost the person you loved, the idea of dating again can seem almost unthinkable. Some WAY members make the conscious decision that they will never date anyone else again, because they feel that nobody could ever live up to the partner they have lost. Other WAY members feel ready to move on quite quickly — and are open to the possibility of finding love and a new partner.
Everyone handles grief differently. And only you will know when or if you feel ready to move on. But a word of warning. Dating after you've been widowed can be fraught with perils, particularly in the early months of bereavement, when you may still be feeling very emotionally raw. You may not have been out on a first date for many years.
The slightest emotional rejection could plunge you back into the depths of despair. And you may also be plagued by feelings of guilt and uncertainty. You can always dip your toe in the dating pool and take it out again if it doesn't feel right.
Other WAY members can provide an invaluable source of advice and a sounding board for people who feel ready to start venturing out into the dating world again. But it can be a long, slow process to find a new partner who understands and accepts what you have been through.
And there will inevitably be some guilt, some practical hurdles and some emotional highs and lows to navigate along the way. Some WAY members choose not to reveal that they've been widowed straight away, as they worry that it might make them feel too vulnerable.
Others report that potential dates run a mile when they say they've been widowed. Follow some basic on-line dating rules: Always meet up with someone in a public place the first time you meet.
Get them to call you during the date in case you need an excuse for a hasty exit! Who knows? You might even have some fun.
Here she shares some words of wisdom on the challenges of finding love again following bereavement. The perils of dating When you've lost the person you loved, the idea of dating again can seem almost unthinkable. The first few weeks Useful links Useful Articles Here are some interesting articles about finding love after bereavement: Dating again after bereavement An article in Marie Claire.
How soon is too soon? An article about finding love again in the Daily Mail. Starting to date again after bereavement Some relationship advice from the on-line dating site eHarmony. Your donations are always welcome.