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This is the week that I decide to alienate more than half of my audience. But it needs to be said:. Geek culture is a reactionary bundle of self-contradictions.
Yes, there is a right way to go about it. To some, we are a thing of legend, to others, vile thots whose only goal is to capture the hearts of men and make a pretty penny selling our bath water. However, we do exist, many of us are attractive, and as a whole we are largely sought after while being hideously misrepresented. Before I can tell you where to find us or how to date us, we must first establish WHY you want to date a geek girl.
After speaking to various people who are searching for their player 2, I have found that it typically boils down to 3 things. If the answer is 1, fair enough! Having common interests can be a wonderful thing in a relationship! So, with that in mind, onto my next point….
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Wherever nerdy things are. Comic book stores, conventions, DnD groups, you name it and we are likely there. Great place to start. You know another great place to start? Approaching the girls that frequent these places like people with similar interests regardless of their genitals. We play the same games you do, contribute to the same Discords, and frequent the same forums to leave bug reports or feedback on the predominant meta of competitive online games.
And from there, who knows! In fact, I know many a geek girl that has ended up with a man that has wildly different interests. While she stays at home inking comics or playing Dragon Age, he might be found watching footy or enjoying beers with his mates. In no way have these girls ever been put off by having different interests than their partners, largely due to the fact that they have found other things about the relationship to value more highly than a shared love of all things nerdy. I have even heard many a geek girl say that she is hesitant to date geek guys, because of the way they have been treated by them in the past.
This is especially true of my female friends that cosplay! Another unfortunate truth is that not all women are straight, even the ones that like all things nerdy… Especially the ones that like all things nerdy. Sometimes a geek girl just wants to wear a cute costume and make out with other cute geek girls. It seems, at least to me, that there a lot more Dating a geek girl boys in want of a geek girl, than vice versa. Unfortunately, this means there is more competition in the dating pool, and that a lot of geek girls are likely to already be in serious relationships.
Now what? Have fun, enjoy yourself, and revel in your common interests! But there are a few things I want you to remember. The ones that sit under your relationship next to an asterisk. Watching her obsession with her measurements rise to new heights as she counts her ribs and runs that tape measure around her bust, waist and hips again and again, morning and night, counting the inches she has left to lose until the people insulting her online finally relent or she makes herself too sick to care anymore. There might be nights spent laying next to her when she refuses your touch because her inbox is full of graphic rape threats and the thought of your hands on her makes her want to disappear.
We have thoughts, feelings and boundaries like any other woman. Any other person. And sure, you can try to tell her to slow down and prioritise her health, but you may also have to live with the consequences of her leaving you. Because her future making art is more important than one with you in it.
Her choice to do this more important than her choice to be with you. Just like you. There is no secret. There is no magic. We are not special because we like nerdy things. And guess what? Neither are you. Short girl with shorter hair. Communications Manager by day, writer and indie game developer by night. Medium is an open platform where million readers come to find insightful and dynamic thinking.
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Unfortunately, because video games are still largely seen by the media and many parts of society as a waste of time, the pursuit of them or other geeky interests can sometimes be detrimental to romantic relationships. Which le me to point 2… The belief that no one else will understand them. So, with that in mind, onto my next point… Where to find us Wherever nerdy things are. I Love You Relationships now. Romance Nonfiction Nerds Geek Relationships.
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