When thinking about compatibility in romantic relationshipswe might think about common interests and shared values and goals. And if you want to take it to the next level, you might consult astrological birth charts or numerology too. Side note, but if anyone out there knows the best way to ask the person you've just started dating for their birth time, we would like to know. Another factor when it comes to compatibility is personality, like being an introvert or an extrovert. When you're in a relationship with someone who seems like the polar opposite of youit can seem like a red flag.
However, to get to that level of understanding with one another, Olivera suggests learning what type of extrovert you are, as well as what type of introvert your partner is. One way to do so is through the Meyers-Briggs test so you can figure out your personality type.
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You can either do the test online or with someone like a therapist. She says this may include giving them space alone, asking if they want support, and reminding them you are there for them. Introverts can offer extroverts the opportunity to slow down, reflect, self-soothe and increase introspection.
Extroverts can offer introverts the opportunity to try new experiences, meet new people, and grow in new ways. But you shouldn't.
On top of which, every introvert is different, so one may need more alone time than another. She stresses that if your introverted partner needs time for themselves, respect that need by not taking it personally.
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Dan thinks so, too. He recommends letting them recharge in their own way.
Adam C. EarnheardtPh. Keeping lines of communication open is important, he says, which is something that may be a little difficult for new couples. Their solution? Having a safe word. He says after dating an introvert for a while, you might not need a safe word.
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Earnheardt says. Dan says. Try not to let this frustrate you. She says that when you highlight differences as strengths instead of barriers, the differences becomes less important. As an extrovert, you probably have no issue with talking to your partner nonstop, about everything and anything, sharing your deepest, darkest feelings.
However, that may not be the case when it comes to how your introverted ificant other communicates with you. Dan suggests maximizing ways to do so with your introverted partner. This will allow the introvert to leave early if desired, which is better than not going at all. Look for win-wins.
Earnheardt also thinks compromising is essential. Make time to give each other undivided attention. He says that while extroverts thrive in parties and public settings, meeting new people and experiencing new things, introverts see these activities as energy drains, sometimes to the point of near exhaustion. But he adds that talking about those limits may lead to great satisfaction as a couple.
As you can see, there are many ways to navigate an extrovert-introvert relationship. By Natalia Lusinski.