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Teenage dating can be confusing for parents. According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, kids start dating at an average age of 12 and a half for girls and 13 and a half for boys. Every teen — or preteen — is different, though, and your child might be ready sooner or later than their peers. Younger teens are more likely to date in a cluster, rather than one-on-one. Co-ed groups let kids experiment with dating behaviors in a safer setting with less pressure.
If my husband had it his way, the answer would be never Our daughter just turned 15 a few months ago, and during dinner last night, she asked whether one of us would be willing to drop her off at the movies for a date this weekend. I think its probably harmless, I remember being that age, but my husband insists that kids are so much more mature at 15 these days, and he's worried about what she may be getting herself into.
What do you all think? Those of you with teens- when did you give them the ok to start dating? I'm 18, and I remember being 15 like it was yesterday because it basically was.
My best advice to you is let her date but don't let them be alone. Teenagers have so many emotions and hormones and everything running around in them, we don't think rationally. We need our parents to do it for us, even if we wont admit it. If you leave teenagers alone for too long they will do exactly what you're afraid of.
Don't let them get too comfortable. Say they're on a date, randomly call or text see whats up. Maybe don't call for two dates so they think you trust them and then bam call again. Make them hangout in the living room or the bedroom with the door open. Only let them hangout in groups, and to make sure they're not lying about being with other friends make them send pictures but don't make them think you don't trust them.
So to wrap it up, watch their every move without letting them know. Though we live in some troubled times, we also have to live our lives, and we shouldn't stuff our children with more violent thoughts.
Try to let them be young and happy. The way you relayed How your daughter Asked about going to the movies That is very encouraging. I found that by requiring that the date occur with another couple OR I dropped them off and agreed to come get them later in the evening giving the Kids a little space to visit but not too much and without a span of the guy thinking that he has time to take advantage in any way.
If the guy is mannerly, he will not be on an agenda to work out his ego by trying to distance the girl from her protections and would want to meet her family and gain their trust. On a short leash is good. You could always send your husband out in an unmarked car and surveillance equipment Smile. Maybe structure it so that your daughter and her friends both couples can come back to the house for a great dinner where you can choose to be present or get lost in another part of the house for the duration Let your protectiveness be running behind the scenes if possible.
This is a hard question I think that as parents we all need to be realistic about our children "dating," the mere fact that your daughter brought it to your attention, she should be commended. Any child desiring to date should understand that a certain level of "maturity" comes along with that level of freedom.
Furthermore, they should understand why people date, we don't date to build self esteem, because our friends are dating, because we're bored.
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People generally get in lots of trouble because of boredom. Or for any other frivolous reason! Kids should comply with parents rules for dating, they must know when "NO! If you believe she's ready for dating then I think she should go. If things go well be involved in her relationship. Make sure to meet the guy and ask him questions if necessary.
It'll mess her up.
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High school is a time for friends! Boys are just unnecessary heartbreaks! Coming from an 19 year old girl, who is still with her boyfriend she had when she was I say say yes to her being able to date, just because even if you do say no she will be even sneakier about it. Me and my boyfriend just recently spoke about the age in which we lost our virginities to each other and got extremely irrked out because we were so young freshman in high school. A movie date is harmless, but kids in this generation are developing quickly. Make sure to meet the boy she dates, and really implement the fact that you want to meet him.
Try to get to know his parents if things start to become serious. Make sure they are never allowed in her room, period. And when you meet his parents clarify to them that rule. That is the way me and my boyfriend got around it, his parents. Leave them alone in the living room, but do constant check ups. My husband and I have decided that 16 is a good age for our children to start to date.
They are able to get themselves around and hopefully responsible enough to make wise decisions when they are out with their friends. I had my first real boyfriend when I was fourteen.
So when should i let my child date?
My parents met him and met his parents, and I was expected to check in with them during unsupervised dates. He was not allowed to drive me anywhere he was two years older for quite some time; parents transported me to and from so they knew where I was. If it was a movie date, they would ask me about the plot of the movie afterward and made sure it was not a R rated movie. If you treat your daughter with respect and allow her to communicate with you without being angry at her or treating her like a small child, she will be more willing to be up front with you and you will have less to worry about.
I went on my first date at 14, and while I didn't do any of the hormonal or sneaky things everyone is scared of, Maggie. Girls are so hormonal and emotional in their own way at this age, it's so easy to get way too attached to a boy at this age. I would wait until she's 15 and be very open about it all.
In my house dating and boys and sex was NOT something we talked about, not unless it was a church related abstinence discussion, but after how much trouble not sexual or sneaky I got into with the same boy over and over we began to talk about it more.
Now, I feel open and comfortable talking to my mother about anything, even adult relationships. While part of that is maturity, part of that is the parent-child relationship, which sounds like you all have.
The more you exhibit maturity and the confident expectation of her maturity, the more she will fulfill it. With more family discussion and a little more growing up, I think 16 would be a better age. Until then, I would recommend the boy family activities or they hang out in groups.
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